Three Ways to Overcome Imperfections

Human  uniqueness is truly the spice of life. All people are different from each other in millions of different ways. However, sometimes these differences may seem difficult for us to accept. For many people these differences are viewed as imperfections, leaving them feeling self-conscious and breaking down their confidence. 



​Learning to embrace our differences–including our imperfections–is a necessary part of living a fulfilling life. 

Mastering the art of self-acceptance and embracing our imperfections takes time and practice, but with some effort, we can learn to be true to ourselves by accepting and embracing what makes us unique. 

So how do we do this? Well here are three ways.

Allow ourselves the freedom of not being totally in control over everything that happens in our lives.

People set goals that focus on changing different aspects of themselves all the time. For example, a hefty majority of New Year’s resolutions usually trend around fitness, weight loss, or some other aspiration to make a “change for the better” in some area of life.

These are all wonderful goals to set, but it’s important to understand that you can’t always change every aspect of yourself. Some things, like facets of your personality, make you unique and are usually considered a “non-negotiable” part of your personality.

Rather than setting impossible goals or forcing a strict pathway toward attempting to make a change that won’t happen anyway, we need to learn to accept the fact that we can’t have total control over everything. That might be scary but it is a basic tenant of life. 

Also, we need to learn to embrace the freedom of letting go and learning to accept ourselves by embracing imperfections–not fighting them. Not letting them control us.

I’m not advocating a laissez-faire attitude here. Goals help us move forward, but don’t be a perfectionist in the process. Remember we are not perfect and can’t control everything that comes our way.

Imperfections don’t define who we are, they are but one facet of who we are. 

Remember that everyone is flawed and makes mistakes sometimes.

Despite what our friends’ and our social media feeds might lead us to believe, there is not one single soul on this planet who is perfect. 

At some point, everyone makes a mistake. Everyone has flaws or aspects of themselves they don’t like. While it’s unpleasant to address feelings about imperfections, it’s a very natural and normal part of human existence.

If you’re ever feeling isolated because of an imperfection, remember that you’re probably not the only person out there with a similar gripe! Not only do folks have tons of differing imperfections, but many can relate because they claim the same imperfections as you. When you’re feeling down about an imperfection, remember that you are not experiencing it alone–many others can relate to your complaints. 

And when you are learning to embrace your imperfection, remember that you’re not on a lonely island, but rather part of a community who understands why that imperfection is tough to accept and overcome.

All this means is that we need to learn how to share our imperfections with others without feeling incompetent or thinking less of ourselves.

Accepting of self, including our imperfections, actually strengthens our confidence rather than weakens it. 

We need to choose to stop comparing ourselves with others. 

When we see someone succeeding or seemingly living a perfect life, it’s tough for us to resist comparing our life to theirs. However, it’s important to remember that comparison is the thief of joy. Rather than coming to grips with what we have, let’s not don’t get too enthralled by someone else’s life.

When we spend all our time comparing our life to someone else’s, there’s a good chance we’re not seeing the “whole picture” of the other person. 

For example, you may see a friend’s best moments plastered all over their social media, but it’s vital to remember that these kinds of views into another person’s life are like a special highlight reel. You don’t see them posting about their sadness, mistakes, and the drama they may be experiencing. Often they don’t post these for everyone to see. 

In conclusion: Let go of the perfectionist attitude that states that we are perfect even though we are not. We can’t control everything so let’s not try. There are others that experience the imperfections we experience so we are not alone. We can help each other in accepting who we are and overcome any set back we may experience.  

And finally let’s not compare our  life’s journey to others  When we’re too focused on someone else’s story, we forget all about our own. When we choose to stop comparing ourselves to others, we are giving ourselves the freedom to focus on our own true self including our imperfections. 

As always folks be well, stay safe and continue becoming the best version of yourself.

Thanks for reading,

Richard Fontanie.

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