We all want to live happy and fulfilling lives, but sometimes it's hard to know where to start. If you're feeling stuck, or feeling you’re not living up to your potential, self-renewal can be a great way to jumpstart your journey to a fuller life. It’s like turning things upside down and opening new opportunities. Self-renewal is about making time for the things that bring you joy, peace, and fulfillment, and letting go of the things that don't. When you make self-renewal a priority, you open yourself up to new possibilities and ways of thinking and living. As a result, you can live a more authentic, richer life. Self-renewal isn't selfish. It is essential for one's development. When you take care of yourself, you're better able to show up for the people and things you care about in your life. You have more energy, more patience, and more compassion. So if you're ready to start living a fuller life, read on for some tips on how to kick-start yourself into action. 1. Make Time For Hobbies and Interests Outside of Work It's important to have passions and pursuits outside of our careers so that we don't lose sight of what brings us joy in life. Whether it's painting, playing an instrument, taking photographs, or anything else that sparks your creativity. Making time for hobbies can help us lead a more well-rounded life. Here are a few more ideas for you: Identify a hobby of interest: Start by thinking about activities that interest you. Do you enjoy art, sports, music, or reading? Identify something that you enjoy and would like to spend more time doing. Make time for it: Schedule a regular time for your hobby or interest. It can be challenging to find time for it amidst work and other commitments, but it's important to prioritize it in your schedule. Invest in the necessary resources: Depending on your hobby or interest, you may need to invest in resources or equipment to get started. For example, if you're interested in painting, you may need to purchase paint and canvases. If you're interested in playing an instrument, you may need to purchase an instrument and take lessons. These may be simple suggestions but they are important considerations. Find a community: Consider joining a community of people who share your hobby or interest. This can be a great way to connect with others and learn from their experiences. Keep learning: Continually challenge yourself to improve and learn more about your hobby or interest. Attend workshops or conferences, read books or articles on the subject, or find a mentor who can provide guidance. By the way, it is never too late to develop a hobby. Emile was in his seventies when he took up the fiddle, and now in his eighties, he shares his talents with those who live in care homes. By pursuing a hobby or interest, you can find joy and fulfillment in your free time while also fostering personal growth, creativity, and a sharing attitude. It's important to remember that self-renewal is an ongoing process, so don't be afraid to try new things and explore different activities over time. 2. Connect With Others. Spend time with people who uplift and inspire you. Join a social group, volunteer, or simply make time for quality conversation with friends and family. "Quality time" doesn't have to mean fancy dinners or expensive vacations – sometimes the simplest moments spent with those we love are the most cherished. Whether it's family movie night, going out for ice cream, or just taking a walk together. Nurturing our relationships is an essential part of self-renewal. Here are some things to consider… Prioritize quality time with loved ones: Make time in your schedule for quality time with your family and friends. Whether it's a weekly phone call, dinner together, or a day trip, make an effort to spend meaningful time with the people who matter to you. Listen actively: When you're spending time with loved ones, make an effort to listen actively and be present in the moment. Show genuine interest in their lives and be supportive and empathetic. Express gratitude: Expressing gratitude for the people in your life can strengthen your relationships and improve your overall well-being. Take time to acknowledge and appreciate the people who bring positivity and joy to your life. Be vulnerable: Vulnerability is a crucial aspect of building strong relationships. Be open and honest with your loved ones about your thoughts and feelings and be receptive to their feedback and support. Forgive and let go: Conflict and disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. Learning to forgive and let go of grudges is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Meet new people: Meeting new people can broaden your perspective, provide new opportunities, and enhance your personal growth. Join a club, attend social events, or take a class to expand your social circle and meet new people. Seek out mentorship: A mentor can provide valuable guidance and support as you navigate personal and professional challenges. Seek out mentorship opportunities in your field or community to gain insight and support from experienced individuals. By building and maintaining strong relationships, you can experience a greater sense of connectedness and fulfillment in your life. Remember that relationships require ongoing effort and communication, so make an effort to prioritize and nurture the relationships that matter most to you. 3. Take On New Challenges Challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things. Whether it’s taking a solo trip or starting a new business venture, taking risks can help you develop resilience and foster personal growth. Engaging in meaningful work is an essential aspect of incorporating self-renewal into one's life. Here are some ways to do just that… Identify your values and strengths: Start by identifying your values and strengths. Consider what you're passionate about and what you're naturally good at. This can help you determine what type of work would be meaningful for you. Set goals and priorities: Once you've identified your values and strengths, set goals and priorities for your work. Consider what you want to achieve in your career and what steps you need to take to get there. Pursue opportunities for growth: Seek out opportunities for professional development, such as training programs, mentorship, or further education. This can help you develop new skills and expand your knowledge, leading to greater personal and professional growth. Find purpose in your work: Finding purpose in your work can enhance your sense of meaning and fulfillment. Consider how your work aligns with your values and how it makes a positive impact on the world. Prioritize work-life balance: Achieving a healthy work-life balance is essential for avoiding burnout and maintaining overall well-being. Make time for hobbies, family, and friends, and set boundaries between work and personal life. Cultivate a positive work environment: A positive work environment can significantly impact your job satisfaction and overall well-being. Be kind and supportive to your colleagues and seek out opportunities to collaborate and contribute to a positive team dynamic. Seek out work that aligns with your values: Finding work that aligns with your values can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Consider the mission and values of the organization or company you work for and whether they align with your own. By engaging in meaningful work, you can experience a sense of purpose and fulfillment in your career. Spend time to regularly reflect on your values and goals and to seek out opportunities for growth and development. 4. Practice Self-care Make time for activities that promote physical and mental well-being, such as exercise, yoga, or meditation. Prioritizing self-care can help you feel more energized and focused. Here are some ways to practice self-care… Make time for physical exercise: Physical exercise is an essential component of self-care as it has numerous physical and mental health benefits. Choose an exercise routine that you enjoy and fits your schedule, such as going for a run, doing yoga, or taking a dance class. Eat a healthy diet: Eating a healthy diet is crucial to your physical and mental well-being. Include a variety of nutrient-dense foods in your meals and snacks and limit the intake of processed and high-sugar foods. Prioritize rest and sleep: Adequate rest and sleep are essential for physical and mental rejuvenation. Make sure to get enough sleep and take breaks throughout the day to rest and recharge. Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques: Mindfulness and relaxation techniques such as meditation, deep breathing, or progressive muscle relaxation can help manage stress and improve mental health. It also places you in a space giving you room to grow spiritually. . Set boundaries: Setting boundaries is an essential aspect of self-care, as it helps protect your time, energy, and mental well-being. Say no to commitments or activities that you don't want to do and prioritize activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Seek professional support when needed: It's okay to ask for help when you need it. Seek professional support from a therapist, counselor, or medical professional when necessary. By prioritizing self-care, you can reduce stress, increase resilience, and improve overall physical and mental well-being, all of which contribute to a fuller and more fulfilling life. Remember to make self-care a regular part of your routine and be kind to yourself as you navigate the journey of self-renewal. 5. Learn Something New Take a course, attend a workshop, or read a book on a subject that interests you. Learning new skills and knowledge can help you expand your horizons and develop new perspectives. Learning something new is an excellent way to incorporate self-renewal into one's life. Here are some ways to do it... Identify an area of interest: Identify a subject or skill you would like to learn more about. Consider what you're passionate about or what skills would benefit you in your personal or professional life. Research learning opportunities: Depending on your interests and learning style, there are a variety of ways to learn something new. You could take a course or workshop, read books or articles on the subject, attend a conference or seminar, or seek out a mentor or coach. Make a plan: Once you've identified a learning opportunity, create a plan for how you will learn and what resources you will need. Consider setting goals and timelines for your learning. Stay committed: Learning something new can be challenging, so staying committed and motivated is important. Find ways to stay engaged and interested in the subject, such as by joining a study group or attending events related to the topic. Apply your knowledge: Once you've learned something new, find ways to apply your knowledge in your personal or professional life. This can help reinforce what you've learned and provide a sense of accomplishment. Learning something new can help expand your knowledge and skills, boost your confidence, and provide new opportunities for personal and professional growth. It's important to remember that learning is a lifelong process, so don't be afraid to explore new subjects and continue expanding your knowledge over time. In Conclusion. By focusing on personal growth, physical health, emotional well-being, spiritual health, positive relationships, and meaningful work, we can enhance our overall well-being and cultivate a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment. While it may require effort and dedication, the rewards of self-renewal are significant, and the benefits can be felt across all areas of our lives. By committing and prioritizing self-renewal, we can unlock our full potential and lead more fulfilling lives. Thank you for reading, stay safe, be well, and continue becoming the best version of yourself. Richard Richard Fontanie
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A positive self-image and personal self-esteem coupled with one's knowledge, skills, abilities, experience, values, attitudes and habits (KSAE'VAH), bring the "I" factor to what one does in life. All of these attributes make up who "I" am and what "I" do
When our purpose and our work's purpose positively intersect, we tend to approach it with greater focus, discipline and positive energy. We also tend to feel alive in mind, spirit and body. There is a synergy about "who we are" and "what we do," which translates into a self-directed passion in life. And when we balance this with all the other values we hold be they for family, community, or personal well being, we begin to contribute in a more meaningful and productive way to work and to society. Added to this mix is a factor often overlooked and that is the "Power" within us. A "Power “which comes from a Spiritual Source. When we touch this Source and connect with It, then purpose, passion and values "truly" become alive in our everyday action. We move from going through the motions on the job to becoming fully alive in our work and life. Our sense of pride and accomplishment comes from doing our best - no matter what the job is. A sense of confidence comes from understanding our products and services and having the skills to do the work. We are who we are because of our KSAE'VAHs all of which may be strengthened or weakened by what we do, who we associate with and what we say. To be a "Star" in our work and in service to our customers, colleagues and others require us not only to have knowledge and skills but also to understand our "inner selves" and then to err on the side of positive values, attitudes and habits. "When our "I" aligns with our work we succeed, no matter what we do. In that sense there is no work better than other work. And there is no room to look down upon another because of what she or he does in life." Anonymous What to do: Consider the following questions - Am "I" really connected with what "I" do? How do "I" contribute to the well being of my organization, family or society? What are the three most important qualities of my work? How do they contribute to my well being? Am I "truly alive" in what I do and how I serve others? Want to learn more? Consider reading a book on self-improvement, here are three that may help: Stephen R. Covey, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change," Dale Carnegie's classic book, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People," and Travis Bradberry's book "Emotional Intelligence." Consider a workshop on Influencing- www.Prioritymanagement.com has a excellent one, or Adventures in Attitudes, or A Course in Miracles. Author: From the archives Fontanie Learning Solutions. ![]() How do we find a sense of purpose and link it with our work? Sometimes we're unhappy because we don't have a full appreciation of our own sense of purpose and how it connects with our work. When we learn to connect our work (what we do) with our purpose (why we do it) then passion, excitement and joy usually follow. That's when people say "I really enjoy what I do." Successful businesses spend a great deal of time defining and branding their purpose. They do this because the brain trust of the company knows that a meaningful purpose and branding strategy is a uniting force both for employees and customers. Successful people also clarify their own sense of purpose. I know a CEO who says his purpose is "to remove barriers, find opportunities and do this while respecting the dignity of others." According to an article in Fast Company: Denise Morrison, CEO of Campbell Soup Company says that her personal mission is "To serve as a leader, live a balanced life, and apply ethical principles to make a significant difference." Joel Manby, CEO of Herschend Family Entertainment says "I define personal success as being consistent to my own personal mission statement: to love God and love others." Oprah Winfrey's purpose is "to be a teacher. And to be known for inspiring my students to be more than they thought they could be." Notice that the purpose statements are action and other oriented; and, they link our tangible reality with our intangible qualities. The focus on "others" tied to the intangible and often spiritual qualities are what make them meaningful. Notice also that the purpose statements are not the same. We all have unique gifts to offer others. Many people spend hours searching for a work but haven't spent any time clarifying their purpose. When employees don't connect a personal sense of purpose with work they are often unhappy, prone to complaining and disengaged. The ultimate outcome is apathy. Unfortunately, I have witnessed a lot of apathetic individuals within organizations. There are many factors that lead to apathy, for instance, it may be a result of poor leadership and management. On the other hand it may not. It may be a result of employees not finding real meaning in their work, or not taking the time to sort out their own purpose and how it relates to their work. In this latter case apathy results from a disconnect between what matters to the person and what they're asked to do. If an employee is disengaged and apathetic, managers are presented with an opportunity for some career coaching. Often managers respond to disengaged and apathetic employees by "Joe is not performing so let's get rid of him." There is another way of handling the situation. The manager can work with the individual to find a personal sense of purpose and then give him the opportunity to find a fit within the company (if there is one); or, help him come to his own conclusion that there isn't a fit, and he needs to find another workplace where he can better apply his skills and talents. My experience suggests that when individuals leave an organization where they received career coaching, they become ambassadors for that organization. Sometimes people find passion within their work after they are involved in it for some time. Initially they may see their work just as a job then something clicks - they find a home, their inner yearning for their own purpose becomes known - they find their passion. Jim was like this, for years he idled along in his work. He wasn't fired up about what he did. Then one day as he was toiling away at delivering water, something clicked. He connected water delivery with a higher purpose. He connected water with health and linked his job with helping others live healthier lives. His work no longer was a drudgery. Sure, he didn't like delivering water on cold or stormy days, but he did it because he knew he was helping someone. He had a higher purpose. He also became engaged in finding more efficient ways to deliver water, his demeanour changed from one who scowled most of the time to one who smiled most of the time. He became the "go to guy" when other "delivery boys" required support or clarification. Jim found meaning for himself and in his work and became passionate about it. You may be someone who isn't finding meaning in your work. If you are in this situation it's time to make some adjustments. Perhaps your work conflicts with your values, or the organization is in a process of change and is moving in a direction with which you are not comfortable. The question you need to ask is "do I want to be stuck in this situation for the rest of my life?" Does "what I do" connect with "why I do it?" If the answer is no, then it's time to act. It is better, and healthier, to find work that has meaning for you than to stay in a job that has little meaning or where you no longer find joy or satisfaction. This suggests taking a risk, leaving and landing back on your feet with purpose - you will be better for it. How to write a personal purpose statement.
Find work where your personal purpose statement and values fit like a glove. For example I know a nurse who is passionate about caring for others with absolute respect and love. She applies her passion with every patient under her care. I'm not trying to paint a picture of a Pollyanna type of existence. One where no personal or organizational obstacles are in the way. You will always be challenged, even when you commit to a meaningful and profound personal purpose. In fact you may be more challenged because you have purpose. Your sense of purpose, however, will reinforce your resolve, help you keep focus, and energize you to overcome those challenges. It is best to recognize that you will never be completely fulfilled because all of us are on the road of life that continues to unfold before us. You may already by living your work life passion. If you are, be thankful. If not, what changes do you need to make? "Whatever you decide to do, do it with passion and all of the energy that you have." Mary Barra, CEO of General Motors From: Richard Fontanie MSW, FCMC, Up-dated from the archives of Fontanie Learning Solutions Image from Freedigitalphotos.net |
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