Change is a fact of life. And it can be difficult even when it’s positive. However, learning something new or exciting for the first time can truly resonate with us and that can excite us. While we are on our journey to renewal, we need to learn to change with change rather than reacting to it.
People find change challenging because they struggle to accept that certain experiences they had will be a thing of the past. We often see this in the workplace when something new is introduced, a new system, or a different procedure. Employees are comfortable with what they know, so change becomes a challenge for them. Employees are experts in the old system and for them, change feels like they are starting all over again.
Despite this, change is inevitable and often beneficial for those involved. Interestingly, the human brain tends to focus on what is being lost rather than the positives that the change will bring. People then become anxious, emotional, and stressed out, which prevents their opportunity for personal growth. When we actually learn to change with change, we refocus our energy and even revel in the euphoria of learning something new.
One of the first important steps to changing with change is to accept that there is always a positive aspect to it. It may not be easy but we need to realize that a greater good may come as a result of the change. It’s often like peeling an onion, sometimes we cry, but the onion provides the flavor for the food we eat. So, sometimes it’s hard to accept the change and learn to flow with it rather than reacting to it negatively and crying about it.
One of the best ways for us to meet life changes is to practice facing small changes positively. Accepting and learning from the little changes that come our way prepare us for the bigger ones in the future. For instance, you arrive at the doctor’s office five minutes early, and as is often the case, the doctor is running behind schedule. You could react to this situation with annoyance but just by adjusting your mindset with a bit of positivity, you can reduce some of the stress you are placing on yourself. Rather than stewing about it, use it as an opportunity to read a book or an article that you have been putting off reading.
Here’s the deal you can’t change the situation, it is outside of your control, nor can you change someone else’s behavior, but you can change how you react to it.
Now it’s easy to expect others to change to make us feel more comfortable, but it’s much harder to make changes in our own lives. If you find yourself demanding change from others due to high standards or expectations, maybe it’s time to put the spotlight not on others but on yourself. When we shift our thinking from others to ourselves we start the process of changing ourselves. Meaningful change begins with personal reflection and action.
Our travels during the journey in life are all about growth and rediscovery of who we are, our real purpose, and how we can become the best version of ourselves. Change is part and parcel of that journey. So it’s time to become comfortable with embracing change and all the opportunities it brings.
Certainly, it’s important to recognize that change can be uncomfortable and difficult, but it is necessary for personal growth and development.
Sometimes we resist change simply because it takes us outside of our comfort zone and forces us to learn new things. However, our reaction to change is often what causes us pain, rather than the pain itself.
That being said, it is important to remember that not all change is positive. If the change goes against our beliefs and values and leads us in a negative direction, then we need to make a decision. It’s up to us to decide whether to accept the change and adapt to it or to take action and try to steer our lives back in a positive direction.
In the end, change can be a powerful source for personal transformation and growth, but it is up to us to make critical choices as to how we react to it, what responses we make, and what actions we take. When we are mindful of our beliefs and values, and take ownership of our lives, we can embrace change so that it aligns with our true selves and leads us to a more fulfilling life.
So, take a moment to reflect on what changes you need to make in your own life. Where are the areas you want to develop and grow? What habits do you need to break and what new ones do you need to build or strengthen? Lean into the idea of self-renewal and embrace the excitement that comes with positive change. Don’t wait for others to change – take the first steps towards meaningful transformation yourself. Peel back the layers of your own onion.
Thank you for reading and as always stay safe, keep well, and continue becoming the best version of yourself.